Ease Her Pain

"Let this welcoming of your past darkness be the door that illuminates your future."

Higher Self, when the mental-emotional pain of my past materializes unpredictably in my day, how do you advise me to greet it?

Settle in. Relax. Allow the child like “NOW” part of you to feel loved, caressed, seen, heard, and embraced. She wants everything now. If not now, her world is not right. Hold her hand. Ease her pain. Ease her discomfort and frustration. Hold her spirit, her energy, her youth, her inexperience. Hold her in every way that occurs to you. Hold her. Allow her to feel fully loved and embraced. Allow her to feel and know that she means everything to you – and mean it. Meld with her and become one with her. Know she is part of you, and her agitation is bringing your awareness to the samskaras created in your childhood, youth, young adulthood – now. Hold her, ease her pain. Acknowledge her. Be sweet with her. Be one with her. Think of ways to meld with her and do so now and now and now.

No longer place her out on the fringe. No longer deny she is part of you. She is you and she is part of you. You and she are the same. Your physical body may have changed, yet the soul that was in that small body is the same soul that lives in this adult body. You are the same – no longer put a distance between the two of you. Realize deeply that she is visiting to help you clear old wounds. She is coming to let you know that she did the best she could at the time with what she knew.

Let her know how deeply and fully you understand this. Let her know how grateful you are to her for pulling you through your childhood and youth. Let her know how important she is to you. Let her know that her very presence is essential to the conglomerate of the person you are continually becoming. She is an essential part of you. Ease her pain. When she comes up to play, play with her. When she arrives with tears, anger, and frustration, be fully present with her and direct your empathy inward.

Help her. She is asking. Assist her. Her emotions are showing up, rising to the surface, making themselves be known, seen, and heard. Allow them to rise up, like sweet cream. Taste them, recognize them. Let her see that you fully embrace and accept everything she ever did for you in an effort to help you feel safe, loved, and well attended.

Patience is of utmost utility here. Be patient with her. To develop your patience with your current self, it is necessary to be patient with all the "yous" of the past. When they show up, be quick to recognize them and see them for what they are – an opportunity to process through the unsettling pain and agitation of experiences past. This is the opening, the opportunity, it’s your shot in time to cradle the pain of the past and allow it to fully be eased and released back from whence it came.

Seize the opportunity now and now and now. Be acutely attuned to the presence of the fear, pain, loneliness, anguish, resentment, frustration, when they arise. Set yourself up to be in a space of gratitude when they begin their escalation. As you swiftly greet them with love and gratitude when they appear in your waking hours and in your dreams, you increasingly give yourself the opportunity to heal old wounds. Let this be the gift you honor and give to yourself on a daily basis. Let this be your habit. Let this be your recognition and your recuperation. Let this habit grow into an automatic response to the emotions of fear. Let this welcoming of your past darkness be the door that illuminates your future.

This is how we advise you. Nourish your expertise in this endeavor and heal yourself now and now and now.